Read This If You Just Can’t Let Him Go

I know how hard it is to move on after a very painful breakup. Most especially when you just broke up with someone you’ve been with for a very long time.

I know, it’s never easy.

It’s never easy to go to bed and wake up knowing you’re all alone. It’s never easy to go to places you used to visit together. It’s never easy to leave home all by yourself. It’s never easy to do things on your own when you’ve been doing them together every single damn day. It’s never easy to celebrate important occasions and not getting any greetings from them at all. It’s never easy to face a rough day at work without that one person who used to comfort you. It’s never easy to face the day without getting any text messages or calls from that one special person who used to love you. I know all these things will haunt you as you try so hard to move forward.

I get it. You would still do anything to bring back the old times, but it’s not possible anymore. He’s in a new relationship and there you are, still trying to move on. But you can’t just move on that easily, so you message him occasionally, just to let him know you still care.

Stop, just please stop.

Don’t ever put yourself in a situation where you will look desperate. Don’t ever forget that if there’s one thing you need to focus on now, it’s yourself and nothing else. Don’t ever let your unsteady emotions stop you from moving forward. W

hat used to be yours is not yours anymore and you have to respect that. Respect his new relationship.

I know you’ve seen the pictures of them on Facebook. I know you messaged him a couple of times with another attempt to manipulate him into coming to your aid once again. I know you wanted to get a rise out of him and see if those feelings were still there. I know you’re starting to see that it’s different with her. I know you now see that he’s not taking the chance of messing things up with her.

I also know that you ask yourself over and over why he stopped replying and when he asked you to respect his new relationship part of you is crying on the inside. I know it’s hard to watch what used to be slip so far away. He’s happy with her and she’s happy with him.

I know how it feels to be in your shoes. I know what it’s like to see the guy you love move on with someone else. This is just simply a part of life.

She is not controlling him, he is with her by choice, he chooses her. She is not your enemy; she’s simply a girl who happens to fit a little bit better with your ex at this point in life. She’s just a girl in love—like you were and like you will be.

If you still love him, like you say you do, then you need to let him go and move on. Allow him to be happy—because he was broken too when you broke up, he just found a way to mend his heart with someone else. Don’t think he’s forgotten all about you. He is the man he is today partly because of you.

One day, you will be happy again. You won’t even notice that another guy is already making you smile, making every morning worth waking up for.


A Letter To My Unexpected Love

You came in like a storm with no warning, beautiful but deadly and boy was I in for a surprise.

Thank you for being my puzzle piece I didn’t know I was missing.

Thank you for coming into my life and blowing me off my feet.

I thank God that our paths had crossed because if it hadn’t I have no idea where I’d be right now. I’d honestly be lost without you.

Before we met I didn’t want a relationship. I was over it. I refused to believe that you’d be the one for me; all that was proven wrong when we decided to make it official. I will admit, it was so damn hard to trust and believe you. And, even when you talk to me in a serious manner, I still find it hard to believe that a guy like you would change for me.

You sent chills up and down my spine and set off a fire in me that I never knew was there. I’ve realized I don’t tell you ‘thank you’ enough.

Thank you for grabbing my hand and pulling me out of my darkness.

I know how difficult I can be sometimes because I have trust issues but you love me regardless.

Thank you for choosing to walk this path with me.

Out of all the paths, you could have chosen, you picked the one that I’m on. You grabbed my hand and led me down a new path we could explore together and there have been some beautiful sights.

Thank you for knowing how to calm me down and for being patient with me.

There are days when my ego gets the best of me. You stay patient with me even though sometimes I can be a little over the top you wait until I cool off and listen when I want to talk.

Thank you for making me feel like I can finally stop running from love.

I have been so tired of running and feeling like I can’t get close to someone without paying for it and with you, it’s not that way.

Thank you for literally every little thing you do for me.

There are some things that you do on a daily basis that goes unnoticed that mean a lot to me, like making sure you always give me a kiss before leaving or telling me that I’m beautiful even when I feel like crap, and making sure you communicate with me every day, making sure I don’t worry about you.

You taught me not every relationship is the same and that it can be magical and feel like something out of a storybook. You are my calm before the storm. You are my partner-in-crime, best friend, my laughing buddy. There’s no way I could thank you enough.

Thank you for being the push I didn’t know I needed. Thanks for showing me the world outside my comfort zone.

Thank you for being you, and most of all, thanks for laughing back at me.