Create a “You Spot”

No matter how many children, roommates, dogs, or monsters under your bed you have residing in your home, you deserve a “you spot,” a place you can escape to and leave the rest of your world behind.

This “you spot” can be an office, a den, a small corner by the window, a quiet nook in your garden, or any other place that you can be completely by yourself. Designate this spot as yours, and make sure everyone in your home is aware of it, even Fido or Whiskers. This is the place you will come to clear your mind. Keep a journal and some markers or crayons in your spot for creative moments.

Meditate, stretch, lounge-whatever makes you feel happiest. Think of time spent in this place as a time to unwind, a time to shed the day’s frustrations and stress, a time just for you.

“You Spot” House Rules

NO PHONES ALLOWED. No one, no matter who they are or where they are calling from, is allowed to invade your space. They can leave a message and you can get back to them when you feel refreshed.

NO SCHOOL OR OFFICE WORKS ALLOWED. It doesn’t matter if you have a big exam, a huge deadline, or housework that needs to be done. You will be able to tackle it more efficiently if you give your mind a little downtime to unwind.

NO MONEY ISSUES OR PERSONAL MATTERS ALLOWED. This is not the time to balance your checkbook, clean out your purse, or pay the bills. Nor is it a time to organize your day planner or make a to-do list.

NO CHILDREN ALLOWED. Though they may be the angels on your earth or the stars in your sky, your children are not welcome in your sacred place. If they are old enough, use this as a learning experience for them to explore their own quiet time.

NO PETS ALLOWED. They’re cute and furry, yes, and sometimes even great stress-busters, but pets can be a distraction. They need attention, and this is a time for your attention to be focused solely on you.

NO STRESS ALLOWED. The most important thing to remember is this: stress of any kind is not allowed to creep into your “you spot.”

Take Time For You

Imagine how incredible it would be to pencil a little time for yourself into your daily schedule. Don’t worry, you don’t have to uproot your current lifestyle or pull away from the people who depend on you most. Taking time for yourself can be as simple as slowing down a little bit.

Sleeping in when your body cries out for more rest, spending quality time with girlfriends you haven’t seen in a while, eating foods that nourish your body and energize your spirit, and painting your nails red and your walls a golden yellow hue.

I am writing to recognize people like you who work so hard and give so much of themselves to others. It’s to remind you that in order to take care of the people in your life, sometimes it’s best for everyone if you put your needs first.

There’s joy to be found in everything you do. You can nourish your spirit, your mind, and your body every day. Begin your journey with a smile, and start taking steps toward the happy, healthy, stress-free life you deserve.

Promise Me That You Won’t Give Up On Love

This is going to be about me and what I feel and this one is for us.

 I have come to terms with myself because I have learned my lessons.

Someone who is willing to move across the city and make someone else a priority deserves someone who is going to do just the same for them. So please keep that in my mind before giving up your life. Ask your person of interest if they would do the same for you. I now understand that a good man will pursue me with genuine intentions and consistent effort. We should never have to close our eyes at night and wonder if we are enough and if we are loved.

Someday, in the most strange and unforeseen place, love will find us. Maybe it will be with a coworker, or a stranger at the grocery store.

Just promise me that you won’t give up on love just because someone gave up on you. It’ll be there, just wait and see.

Letting Go Of Control

“You must learn to let go. Release the stress. You were never in control anyway.”

Sometimes I try really hard to control things.

In many ways, control gives me a sense of peace of mind.

When my team is doing what they are supposed to be doing, I can relax. When company is booming, I can relax. When I am getting what I want, I can relax. This control freakness doesn’t just apply for me at work.

I used to be this way about my body, and I notice these tendencies even pop up in my relationships, too. When I feel like I am in control, I feel free.

When I feel like I’m not in control, I feel frustrated, scared, and angry. It rocks my sense of security straight to my core.

It’s tough to admit, but it’s the truth.

I’m getting a lot better at relaxing without needing to be in control, and I’m realizing that the greatest control is in letting go of the need for it.

When I try to control, I get attached to how I think it should play out; I think I know the best way for things to happen. But many examples in my life have shown me that when I trust and let go of thinking I know best, the outcome is better than anything I could have imagined.

Letting go doesn’t mean giving up the desire, it means letting go of the struggle.

It’s exhausting needing to be in control all the time, isn’t it? And the truth really is that any sense of control that we think that we have is false anyway.

Our greatest power is in learning how to trust. When we focus on our desires with a sense of non-attachment to exactly how they unfold, it releases the blocks and opens us up to greater opportunity.

As a society, I feel like we need to remind each other often that an unhappy journey does not lead to a happy ending. It’s like we believe that if an achievement doesn’t involve stress or hardship, we don’t deserve it.

We do deserve it. and we do deserve a life built around a lot of ease and fun.

What’s one thing you do to let go and release stress?

Mental Health Over Everything

There is nothing wrong with wanting space, or time, or isolation. I don’t say any of that like it’s okay to cut yourself out of the picture completely, I’m just saying–You don’t always have to live in the moment.

Choose a movie marathon over a party if that’s what you need. Throw your attention to the stars if it’s too distracted anywhere else. Sleep in on the weekends and let your responsibilities realize they take you for granted.

Be honest enough to tell the people around you that life gets too heavy sometimes and you gotta check out.

There is nothing wrong with carving out a shelter apart from this dimension and putting everything on pause for a while. It’s got nothing to do with anyone or anything else, it’s about you.

Take care of yourself, even if it means you have to put life on hold for a bit. Time goes on, but we can pretend like it doesn’t. Because even though time is always ready to take us back again, you won’t always be ready to go.

Take mental health days, take daily breathers, they don’t make you fragile, they keep you strong.